I need some real life advice based on experience. Laws and lawyers are useless to make ex-spouse respect children and father rights.
I am on the way to divorce with Japanese wife. Now, we are separated but NOT YET divorced. Since separation, I have been paying monthly reasonable child support based on where the children are living. There was a procedure at the family court and I was asked to pay x amount per month to her as support+maintenance.
Yet, she is denying me access to my children. She prevented me to speak to my daughter on her birthday. She did the same for my boy on his birthday. Eventually, I stopped paying, then manage to negotiate 1-2 phone calls per month in exchange of child support.
Now, I requested to know the children address in order for me to declare them at tax office as dependents not living with me. But yet,she refused to give me the children address. So I decided to stop any payment till my rights as father are respected and my kids right to meet or talk to me are respected.
I am really feeling depressed for couple of years now. Missing my kids and fearing they grow up without a father figure and all sorts of issue that can cause to them in their future when they are adults.
So now as things stand, my father rights are denied and I am resolved to ignore any family court order to make payment. What am I really risking in doing so? What am I liable for and what are the enforcement measures against me?
Do anybody gone through similar experience?
P.S: suggestion to mend relationship with wife cannot work because deep trust issue (caught her doing monkey-branching and registered on sugar dating service). Also, I have been victim of physical abuse by her, including death threatsl by knife attack. I have some proof to show for the above, but I am against exposing her because of our kids and the shame it can bring.
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