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dimsummer-

I know it's recommended all the time but 'Why does he do that' by Lundy Bancroft really opened my eyes. My ex was never physically abusive so I didn't think that book would apply to me. But Bancroft talks a lot about narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse and codependency too. I found it useful to read, as learning about all the different types of abuse and abusers made it easier to pinpoint what kinds of abuse I was subject to and (hopefully) easier to recognise in the future. It also helped me realise that the abuse I suffered was real and that it came from a similar place as physical abuse (male socialisation, values, etc). It was very validating.


Bows_and_bows

Thank you for this! It's on my short list, but like you, I thought it wouldn't apply to her situation. It definitely sounds like something she'll benefit from.


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Second this. One of the best books I ever read.


ASeaOfQuotes

Since Lundy was already recommended, I might suggest All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks. You can read the synopsis on Wikipedia and find a free pdf if you search the title and “pdf” on Google. I really like how it talks about the hopefulness of love, building love outside romantic love. I haven’t reread it with my new FDS lens, but it meant a lot to me a few years back.


GIfuckingJane

You'll have to buy a hard copy, but "Why do I think I am Nothing without a Man?" Is an excellent read on how to deprogram and decenter men from your life. Its really great for an older women who was born under even more patriarchal bullsh*t. It helped me to understand the pressures and brainwashing women get from birth to get a man to so we won't "feel empty" or have a "void" inside.


stealthcalmer

Leave A Cheater, Gain A Life by Tracey Schorn. Not to presume your mom was cheated on, but the book focuses on leaving a narcissistic partner and how to protect yourself on the way out. Her blog Chump Lady is also incredibly helpful.


stonerose036

Second this, it’s also hilarious so a cathartic read


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anynameblahblahblah4

I’m a bit confused by the last sentence of your comment. What kind of tv shows and movies to do watch to wind down?


Snowchic88

“If he’s so great why do I feel so bad “ By Avery Neal. This book changed my life. Cannot recommend enough!!


wildfireseed

Women who love too much by Robin Norwood


Phoenix__Rising2018

If you check out our wiki and handbook there are book recommendations. It's in the about section. Thank you.


Bows_and_bows

Thanks Phoenix! I did look, that's where I got the Codependent one. I'll look again and do some more deep dives into the reviews of them.


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Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie helped me a lot.