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THExBEARxJEW

My brother took his own life after a girl told the entire school he had a small dick. There’s your answer.


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I'm so sorry dude, this broke my heart when I read it. I've wanted to take my life for years now because of my size (and other reasons), even tried to before. I was found on time however. I still feel suicidal every day, but something about reading this made me feel different. I'm not fully sure how to describe how I feel right now, it's still bad but different. I don't know.


Throwaway977216

Are you serious ?


THExBEARxJEW

Unfortunately yes.


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I'm small, and I've tried to kill myself before. Still think about it often too. I believe this, people don't realise how much it can ruin someone's life.


Throwaway977216

Yeah I do believe it , I have similar issues with my height. But actually doing it is another thing . Very sad


Palais888

Did u speak to her since?


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I couldn't speak to her if I was him. She basically killed his brother. I wish the worst suffering imaginable upon her.


THExBEARxJEW

Yes She came to his funeral. I didn’t know it was her at the time who said it. I found out months later that it was her.


Palais888

Was she remorseful or anything?


THExBEARxJEW

She didn’t show it if she was, which is probably why I didn’t know until months later when her friend told me that she was the one telling everyone.


Palais888

Whats the humour in it anyway?


THExBEARxJEW

Huh?


Palais888

Sorry thinking out loud, I mean why are small dicks considered funny? I have heard so many jokes at the expense of my manhood & I just don't get what's so funny?


THExBEARxJEW

I don’t think she was trying to be funny. Just just told people he had a small dick which he was already extremely embarrassed/depressed about so one the entire school knew it must have just been too much for him.


pm-small-asian-boobs

I think it's mostly because when you really get into it, media, posts, tinder, stories, etc etc any form of NSFW social media really, more often than not it's all about "big dicks" so I think a lot of guys feel the need to lie about their size because they don't want to be seen as small or average. So a lot of guys just have this really twisted view of what we as guys need to have to pleasure a woman. Which is really silly and so far from the truth but we as guys still continously get bombarded and confronted with women that "want a big dick"(once again this is mostly on a NSFW social media type of platform) that those take the forefront in our mind the most and thus some guys feel the need to lie and don't think beyond the lie.


RosieH1996

How very true this all is! I’d just rather someone could use it than lie about what they’re working with ❤️


pm-small-asian-boobs

This is the sentiment I have heard more than anything as well. Size matters to some(obviously) but the general consensus seems to be knowing how to use it > big. And besides that, hands and tongue do wonders as well if you know how to use those.


RosieH1996

I think knowledge is power at the end of the day, that’s what I’ve always believed in this department


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RosieH1996

2inches right? 😉


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RosieH1996

Depends on the kind of girl you’re after 😘


this_is_hard_FACK

Under promise over deliver is my motto


Pashera

Fun fact the smallest functional penis for reproduction would be 1.5 inches. Apparently.


notjimspornaccount

Surely if it cums, any size will do


Pashera

Apparently not, but I can’t remember where I read that from


InbhirNis

Gay man here. I guess some guys do it from a sense of insecurity – it’s fairly normal as a young guy to worry about whether you’re normal, or if you ‘measure up’, so to speak. Once I’d been with a few guys, it stopped being a concern. I realised two things: first, I’m not at all abnormal; and second, I’ve still had great sex with some guys who were smaller than me. So, I don’t lie about my dick size. I only tell people if we’re chatting on Grindr and there’s a chance of hooking up, and if we do hook up, they’re going to find out pretty quickly if I was lying or telling the truth.


RosieH1996

That’s the truth! Anyone lying about it, gets caught out. But understand a younger worry. Nice to get your view - thank you 🥰


JillsACheatNMean

You seem nice.


luke1989uk

I never lie cos I'm into sph


Cyanora

I don't actively lie about my size. People make assumptions and I just don't bother to correct them. And the reason why I don't bother correcting them is exactly the reason you use here; every inch of me is fun.


RosieH1996

Every inch - extra when they measure, or when you measure?


Cyanora

Extra when I fold them like laundry and stuff them until the inches are counted in moans and squeals


mart_topper

I'm happy with what I have no need to lie


RosieH1996

Thank you for your honesty


mart_topper

I'm older and have learned its not always about size but its about eagerness to please. (Not always about me) I gain lots more pleasure from giving pleasure


RosieH1996

Thank you! This is the spirit I needed - definitely 🥰


PornActingCritic

Size queens. I think a good majority of men have been rejected for not being “big enough” or watch porn and had their mind diluted a bit.


RosieH1996

I think you may be right, the amount of people I’ve had message me saying they’ve been told they’re not big enough is upsetting from my point of view 🥺 I apologise from the females.


BritishBotWriter

I used to lie about it the opposite way because I'd measured myself at 14 and never measured myself afterwards I thought I was 6inchs when in fact I was 7


RosieH1996

Pleasant surprise then! Us girls just like to know what we’re working with x


Ebennett3344

Can I ask why? Is it because you want to be able to shut it down before it begins in case he is too small or too big? (Which I think there’s nothing wrong with that). I don’t really feel the need to ask if a woman is deep or shallow has a more narrow or wide set, tight or loose vagina lol. Just wondering what’s in your mind.


Sho14

I think that it comes from a lack of reference to erect penises outside of porn. I don't think most straight guys have seen an erect dick outside of porn. So that's what they think is the normal size and they don't want to be seen as small. There also seems to be some kind of idea for men that the bigger the better at sex and more of a man. Which is not the case. But I guess they to impress women. In my experience men to be way more focusing on dick size than women.


RosieH1996

They are! I just want someone to use it, if they think they’ve got a big dick and feel as soon as they get me into bed - they don’t have to do anything 😬


gay4nsa

I don't, but then again I can care less what anyone thinks either. I'm 7.5 inches & I wish it were smaller. It sucks being a total bottom & wanting some hot guy to smash on you, only to have him want to be fucked by me. No thanks.


thR0waway2day_

the boys you’ve been with are simply that for lying to you: boys.


RosieH1996

Even older men do it though… but when you’ve gone for ‘X inches’ and dropped by 2… there’s no getting away from it


thR0waway2day_

oof, I’m really sorry. frankly, I wish I had the answer. but I do hope the next penis you receive is to your liking 😌🤝


RosieH1996

It’s not about me liking certain sizes any less, it’s about what they do with it that counts anyway, but just why lie?☹️


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RosieH1996

I think you need to read the whole of this thread. Honesty (no matter if 2 inches or 12 inches) is better than being lied to. It really isn’t about size, just be honest about it and it wouldn’t be a thing.


useles-converter-bot

2 inches is the height of 0.03 'Samsung Side by Side; Fingerprint Resistant Stainless Steel Refrigerators' stacked on top of each other.


RosieH1996

This is the best bot reply I’ve seen 😂


HappyTreesUniversity

Preach


Throwitaltawayroot

Honestly, I'm just *really* bad at estimating lengths and I'm too chickenshit to measure.


RosieH1996

Honesty is the best policy, so no answer is no problem🥰


kingbouncer

I think most men fail to make the distinction between "size matters" and it being the only thing that matters or even belonging in the top 5 things that matter during sex. Sure, size is not totally unimportant. But there's definitely more important things. The 1 most important thing probably being not to over think things.


RosieH1996

Some great points, often overlooked by many. Strange how we all think different things on what we need from the sexual side of ourselves


kingbouncer

I feel like men feel the need to overcompensate for their size, may it be necessary or not. Then women feel the need to compensate for that behaviour by telling men size is not at all important. THEN other women feel the need to correct THAT by exaggerate the importance of big Dick, thus starting the need for men to overcompensate. It's a weird and difficult vicious cycle. If you start looking for these cycles you see them a lot.


Throwaway977216

I think we are just bummed that average or above average is not seen as particular good. 7 inches are pretty rare and that’s what women ideally want (apparently). Or even bigger. And like with height only a small portion can be that ideal man .


Theinjuredginger

I lie on the smaller side. I don’t want to ever say how big it is. But if I do, I normally say it’s about 2” smaller than it actually is. I don’t want to some to want me for my dong. I want them to want what’s attached to the dong


performace-gardening

Who is asking how big a dudes dick is? Do guys just come out and say how big their dick is?


FourSeasons1972

85% of the male population has a penis length between 4.8-6.3 inches so it’s interesting thag a lot of guys are still mad or insecure about their normal size that can please and satisfy many women. Like others I blame porn, and toxic men/women for humiliating them. I for one am 5.5x4.8 and used to be insecure, but not anymore, I’ve pleased women and ain’t going to stop :)


Pashera

Right so I don’t know if this counts but I have lied about my dick size once, kind of. I got a custom one of those stick on temporary tattoos and told a girl I had a cock that when down to my knees. When she pulled down my pants she was greeted by my six incher and a rooster on my leg that in fact when down to my knees. She found it funny


Majestic_Lie_5792

If size really didn’t matter, why do you girls ask? It shouldn’t even be a topic, but many girls still think bigger is better, and it may be the difference between getting to know each other or keep struggling to find someone. That’s why some people lie about it.


RosieH1996

For me personally, the size would never dictate whether I saw a future with someone. But I am just curious as to why guys do, but now that you have explained, it does make perfect sense!


Melodic-Reality-4451

Shrimply Pibbles said it best: “I've dwelt among the humans. Their entire culture is built around their penises. It's funny to say they are small. It's funny to say they are big. I've been at parties where humans held bottles, pencils, thermoses in front of themselves and called out, 'Hey, look at me. I'm Mr. So-and-So Dick. I've got such-as-such for a penis.' I never saw it fail to get a laugh.


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I don't lie, but I'm still incredibly depressed about my size. I have also tried to take my life before. I've never been with someone and I'm too afraid to be. I'm useless, inferior and defective, there's no point pretending I'm not. I just don't see the point in needlessly being rejected, shamed, humiliated and defamed in the eyes of anyone who would probably be told.


irishcpl2019

Ego, we need to feel manly 🤣


RosieH1996

But, being manly and ‘having a big dick’ are not the same thing to a woman


writer6996

*We* need to feel manly, fuck what women consider manly


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RosieH1996

I think you’ve just generalised a thought you’ve had - not my own opinion.


imredheaded

I don't, but I can see the argument to lie online. If every guy online lies about having a 7" dick and it's assumed that guys are almost universally exaggerating their size then an honest 6" person might get fewer views as a result since it might be assumed he is exaggerating too.


RosieH1996

Okay, understandable… but I don’t date a guy over the size, I date them for them - and rather get the honesty from the start!


imredheaded

That's totally fair, though I can't say I was coming at this from a dating angle. I'm not the most experienced dater but I don't think size has ever come up in conversation. It's just something that would only be learned about when the pants hit the floor


RosieH1996

That’s a fair point, I don’t ask it. People normally offer if they ever want to say… which is much more often than you’d think!


kneedrag

Then why are you asking them about dick size?


RosieH1996

I never said I asked. But I get lied to a lot?


ChrisNEPhilly

My GF literally measured my dick with a ruler. No lying from me (never was).


RosieH1996

Glad you’re honest!


Revengejefe

I’ll give it to you straight: my penis is a 7 x 5 and nothing more I love my penis and it’s size and will never trade it for anything else my fuck buddy loves it and so do I so that’s all I need to know


RosieH1996

Sounds like a lucky fuck buddy!😍


Throwaway977216

Yeah exactly that reaction is why men lie. Cause they want the same reaction


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Throwaway977216

Yeah right , I always assume that when someone asks this question, she is implying that it doesn’t matter to her (because otherwise why would she even ask, the answer would be obvious ). And that she has empathy Then guys with small penis read this thread and get hopeful only then to be dissapointed. I guess you are right. I should assume people are selfish.


Here-Is-TheEnd

I don’t think I’ve ever told a woman how big it is before my pants came off. I know and it’s close enough to average that no one would brag about it.


kirby_derby_burby

I will tell people that I'm 3" cause the reaction I get is hilarious.


ssjlayne

I don't. Never have actually. I mean it's only 5".


Crazed_waffle_party

What do you consider small?


Moist_Currency103

Insecurities. Self image. Masculinity. I think are the reasons. Thing is, why lie when what you got is what you got? I get that’s easier said than done because of media, and peers ( whether they be man or woman). I remember in middle school, my peers said I had a small penis because I stood too close to the urinal while peeing. And at 9 years old, that would mess with me for a long time, way into highschool until I had my first sexual experience. Turns out even tho I only measure to 6.4 I do just fine lol. So I don’t lie. sometimes I use to wish i was bigger due to sizes I would see in porn but after sexual experiences I see I’m just fine. That and just appreciating yourself goes a long way.


_8inchThrowaway_

It's easier to just say "my dick's 8 inches long" than to go all Professor on her and say something like "my penis is 8,2 inches long (bone pressed) and due to fluctuations in erection quality the lentgh, girth and hardness are subject to minor change on a daily basis" haha


useles-converter-bot

8 inches is the same as 0.41 'Logitech Wireless Keyboard K350s' laid widthwise by each other.


TiedHands

I mean, if the person you're lying to is going to see it, then I have no idea. Seems counterintuitive. If you're just posting about it online or lying to someone thats never going to know the truth, then its just to cover for their insecurities. Girls will never understand how it feels to have dick insecurities.


CapcomAtMeBro777

I lie about size but I under sell it so if it is the smallest she’s ever seen she wouldnt be surprised cuz I said it was small in the first place.


xXfukboiplayzXx

Yeah, I don’t really get it. Mind you I wouldn’t just walk up to someone and be like “my penis is like five and a half inches, ain’t that nifty?” But in situations where it has come up I’ve been honest.


Redheadguys

I don’t lie, I’ve actually never been asked. I wouldn’t lie though.


Squirrely3

Desperation, and the fact that if you tell the the truth, most women will just ghost you.


Bleed11green

It's not in the size that matters it's all in how you use it. I'm not a shower I am a grower and the four play is the thing that I love to do when she is getting off the most. If we can play and you are cumming I'm happy. If we are having sexy and your cumming then your doing something right. But a lot of women lie to on how it fills. Women will us a toy and open there on self up and need a bigger dick and down grade someone that is smaller. But does the size matter yes because you don't know what she has done in her past. For me I'm happy with what I'm working with because I can four play and give what I got to offer you cum and I cum 😉


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burke_no_sleeps

I've known women to ask to see a dick pic, but not ask about size. Most women with any experience are aware that size matters less than technique. They're also aware that someone saying they're 6" is very different from holding that 6". I've had more female friends receive unsolicited pictures and info about the size, shape, capability, color, altitude, and attitude of random dicks than female friends asking for those details. Not only do men feel the need to lie, they also jump the gun and start with the lies right out of the gate in order to "catch" a woman's interest. I have yet to meet a woman who receives any unrequested info about a man's dick and decides, based on that info, while sober, to have sex with him. This method is one of desperation. Having a dick is not a replacement for personality, and if she likes your personality she'll probably like your dick too. If you're hanging out w women who believe 7" is average.. and that makes you feel insecure, angry, resentful, confused, etc. .. maybe stop hanging out with them? She'll learn she's wrong and you'll meet people who appreciate you regardless of your dick.


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burke_no_sleeps

>Asking for size or dick pics, the same. I know, that's why I mentioned it. >Do you realize how nowadays female body misconceptions are directly addressed and you tell me to just back off? If you were a female hanging out w someone who constantly belittled you for having small breasts, I'd tell you not to hang out with them. It's my opinion that nobody needs the company of people who bring up their insecurities or intentionally make them feel bad. I don't know your situation, obviously, but you're coming into a thread asking about the behavior of men to get very angry about the behavior of women, and its clear to me that you've had a negative experience at some point and it has shaken you. My comment was aimed at reassuring you that most women, in my experience, don't believe 7" is average and aren't particularly interested in dick size, but now I think this negative experience of yours has made it difficult for you to believe that. I'm not even sure what you're trying to say about "female body misconceptions" here. I'm pretty sure you're saying it's unfair that women are told they're beautiful while men are not, and to that I say again, you need to find people who boost your self-confidence instead of tearing you down. Your issue is "some women have inaccurate and damaging beliefs about average dick size", a statement that is just as true and sad as "some men have inaccurate and damaging beliefs about how vaginas work". That's an issue of ignorance and can be solved through discussion and personal experience, if a person is willing to learn and open to finding out they were wrong.


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burke_no_sleeps

>While men try to do the same with dicks, they are dismissed and called insecure. >men can't even complain now about unfairness. You yourself have brought up multiple damaging and inaccurate beliefs you think women have about dicks in this thread - but there are no women here agreeing they have those beliefs. There are some people here saying things in opposition to those beliefs. I'm one of them. You haven't even answered OP's question, just came in to blame women for men needing to lie about dick size. There are no other men here saying that's true either. In fact many men are aware of various motivating factors behind the desire to lie, but have chosen humor or honesty instead. I didn't see any of them blaming women for making it necessary or appealing to lie. You took issue with OP for being nice to some people because you interpreted it as big-dick favoritism. You're trying to make her admit she favors bigger dicks when the discussion isn't even about that. Maybe you're being dismissed and called insecure because you're changing the discussion in a direction others disagree with. You're ignoring viewpoints that don't support your narrative, and you're speaking with anger and certainty as if an upsetting personal experience is fact. Maybe you've taken some personal attacks or personal insecurities to be truths, and are publicly arguing with people about them, when nobody else believes those things to be true or has experienced anything to suggest they are. Your experience isn't unique, but assigning blame isn't going to help you grow through it.


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burke_no_sleeps

Okay. I'm not sure what you're trying to say, except to keep the conversation going and maybe continue trying to prove you're "right". We'll have to agree to disagree. Are you happy with how this entire interaction went?